Question:1
I am married man, i have a child, currently wife in India, so, most of the day i am doing masturbation myself, like this habit is how affect the my health, may go to any girl for sex.?

Question:2
I m unmarried and masturbating daily, will it affect my married life?

Question:3
I have been masturbating since everyday. in a day i sometimes will do it twice a day. is there anything bad by doing it? what effect i will get in the future if i do it daily? is there any method that can make me stiff by doing it? Please help me.

Question:4
i have been masturbating for a long time , now I am planning to get married , I have had sex with one of my friend here but unfortunately i ejaculated soon , this is making me more guilty and worried , is there any way i can get rid of this as it will affect my marriage . so pls. rush me an answer Awaiting your prompt reply.

Question:5
I have self sexual activity(masturbation) since my early age i mean teen age. i have this activity now also , i feel for this , now i have hesitation in marriage , moreover i feel I'm not stable , could u halp me.?

Answer

All the problems under the sun from insomnia, impotency, lack of concentration, loss of vitality have been attributed to masturbation. but the truth is 99% males masturbate and the remaining 1% are liars. Masturbation is the commonest sexual outlets in young people. it has been proved beyond any doubt that masturbation never produce any harm. it is the guilt & fear produces mental agony.

Masturbation is one of the healthier normal habits, and you learn your own sexuality and sensuality through masturbation. Masturbation gives you physical and emotional release.

it is free of sexually transmitted diseases and aids. it is not expensive, purely personal, always available. you need not satisfy your partner.

Masturbation is also found in animals. Male fogs and cats regularly lick the phallic organ. Male elephants manipulate their semi erect penis. so, masturbation is natural.

Question:6
I have a swelling in front of my penis. I think this is due to masturbation and I have nightfall thrice a week and my testes are not equal in size. I have less vigour. I want to get treatment as soon as possible.

Answer
The swelling in your penis needs to be examined. Normally masturbation does not cause any swelling, unless you have traumatised your organ due during masturbation or if you have not maintained good hygiene resulting into infection.

Many times boys/men discharge the semen during sleep (nightfall). This discharge is invariably accompanied by a sexual dream. It is a normal, natural and uncontrollable response to sexual tension that gets built up within the body. There is no reason to be worried, frightened or feel guilty about a wet dream. It happens with all men and is not a disease. It is completely harmless and has no ill effects on one's health or manhood.

Testes are commonly known for being unequal in size. It is not abnormal for testes to be unequal in size. It will be worthwhile to get yourself examined by a qualified doctor for your query related to testes size and vigour.

Question:7
After intercourse I found that the sperms are coming out from my spouse's vagina at once I take away from her. pls. Clarify if this is normal. We are married for the last one-year still awaiting for a child.

Question:8
I’m married two years back. Still no issues. as soon as intercourse is over, i get tired and want to take it out immediately. hence everything which goes in comes out immediately. kindly advise on the dates on which i should have the ?

Answer
In your ejaculate only 5% is sperms. 40-50% from seminal fluid. 20-35% from prostate fluid. these fluids do not enter into the uterus they come out. sperms alone swim forward & enter in to the uterus. so, ejaculate which is coming out after sex is quiet normal.

Question:9
Premature ejaculation ?

Answer
Premature ejaculation is the common sexual problem which affects nearly all men at some stage in their life. The main cause can be psychological- anxiety about the possibility of ejaculation before, during or straight after penetration. Premature ejaculation often occurs during the first experiences with sex but majority gradually learn to control their orgasm.

Increasing the number of ejaculation with the help and understanding of the partner or by masturbation can be of  benefit to achieve control gradually. This is brought about by using the squeeze method in which the partner gently but firmly compresses the end of the penis to halt impending ejaculation. when both partners feel ready, ejaculation can then be allowed to proceed. 

Question:10
I’m having trouble sleeping night, sometimes the bad dream with women and my sperm leak & wet.

Question:11
my male organ is small and get semen discharge while sleeping. will it affect the
sex in marital life. if so what can i do to have full sex in marital life ?

Answer
Around the age of 13-15 male boys produce sperms & they are ready for reproduce. because human beings are social animals, we have other responsibilities like studies, getting job etc., before marriage. so, we have to wait up to the age of 28-30 to have sexual life. all the males either unmarried or not actively involved in sexual life will have nocturnal dreams & they will ejaculate once in 15 days. This is quiet normal & will not cause any problem in marital life later.

Question:12
I am in a relationship for 3 years and just got engaged. As we spent a night together at a picnic we indulged in unprotected sex. And now I am pregnant but cannot keep it as its still time for our wedding. Is there any medication by which I can terminate this pregnancy without anyone's knowledge?

Answer
There is no medication that I can prescribe through this column in this situation. If you have missed your periods and have confirmed the pregnancy through urine/blood test, then the only way is to terminate this pregnancy with the help of a gynaecologist.

Question:13
I have recently been married and am unable to give complete satisfaction to my wife because of immediate ejaculation. It happens at the time of entry itself. I am very frustrated and need your help. Please provide me with a remedy . M.K.

Answer
To understand premature ejaculation you need to understand the psychosomatic circle and the four phases of sex. Sex is dependent upon an interaction of psychological, somatic(bodily), and outside factors-the psychosomatic circle of sex. The desire generated is followed by the four phases-arousal, plateau orgasm and resolution. Faulty training or disturbances can telescope the arousal phase into orgasm, without remaining in the plateau phase for a reasonable time. This manifests as "premature" ejaculation.

Most premature ejajulators are so bacause of faulty masturbatory practices and/or anxiety. If a person has trained himself over the years to climax early, the penile stimulation at attempted vaginal entry alone may be sufficient to lead to ejaculation. Retraining by correct self help techniques is of importance. Vajroli Mudra and Masters and Johnson 'squeeze' technique help in increasing awareness and retraining. Go through a good sex manual for details.

Question:14
I have a problem of short time enjoyment in two minutes every thing is over.
What to do?

Question:15
i am married for 5 years. i have a problem during making love. my sperm comes out very early...within less than five minutes. after that mine will not stand strong and become small. we don't have any baby until now. both of us when to see gunny and make a checkup. my don't have any problem. they did my sperm count and said it's normal.

my questions :- is there anyway for me to prolong my relationship during making love? coz...my wife still not not satisfied during that time (q 2) we don't have baby until now...is this due to my comes out early. is there any remedy for me to have a child...to make my wife conceive baby.( q 3) some suggested viagra is the solution but how can I purchase from pharmacy without any prescription
Doctor...is there any side effect?

Question:16
i am married and i have a problem in doing sex. my problem is in timing(fastness). how can i control it. please advice me.

Question:17
how do i sustain my erection and ejaculation?

Answer
Premature ejaculation (coming out early) is very common problem among males. 70% of male are having this problem.

Following ways you can try:

Spend time on foreplay
Adopt female on top position.
Whenever you feel you are going to ejaculate, stop sex and
Ask your wife to squeeze the tip of the penis. This will stop the ejaculation.
After one minute again you can start sex and repeat the same think. This way you can prolong sex for many hours. good medicines are there to cure premature ejaculation.

Question:2
if after my marriage i decide not to have baby early but my husband wants can i eat pineapple or raw papaya to prevent my pregnancy

Question:3
how to avoid pregnancy initially. what is the ideal time to avoid without using condoms. i got married recently

Answer
Initial days you can use low dose contraceptive pills to prevent pregnancy. These pills are available everywhere. femilon - is the name of the pills. Condom is another option. but, female partners may not get full satisfaction in sex. Another problem is, it is not 100% effective. papaya or other fruits or rhythus (timed sex) methods are all risky. So, low dose contraceptive pills are safe.

Question:4
How much is the maximum time can a man have intercourse without ejaculation and till that time can a woman control her self from discharge?

Answer
The ejaculation time depends on multiple 'organic' and 'psychological' factors. It varies from person to person; and in the same person from time to time. There are no "standards" against which you can compare yourself. Control comes with practice and mutual cooperation. Some men experience early/premature ejaculation and some experience delayed/retarded ejaculation. It varies even in the same person from circumstances to circumstances.

Question:5
I am twenty one years old and had sex with my boyfriend three weeks ago. We took precautions and moreover I took tablets of Mala-D. I am worried as my periods are overdue by seven days. Could I be pregnant? I can't talk about it to my parents

Answer
Many a time's anxiety and guilt built around premarital sex have an effect on the regularity of periods. So relaxing mentally may start the flow in a day or so. Pregnancy is a possibility depending upon the timing and the so called 'precautions' you used. Proper use of a condom would be much safer than, say, the withdrawal method. Just the solitary use of Mala-d would not suffice as emergency contraception. Introspect why you can't talk about it to your parents. Do you feel guilty about it? Would you like to do things which make you feel guilty?

Any episode of overdue periods of ten or more days with the recent history of sexual contact needs an examination by the doctor. So do visit a govt. hospital or a gynecologist of your choice who may order for a urine exam to rule out pregnancy. The future course of action will depend upon the result of the pregnancy test. If you have to have sex, it is best to learn about various contraceptives including emergency contraception in detail -and in advance!

• Search for what attracted your husband to marry you in the first place and check if that quality is still there. If not then make an effort to attain that quality once more.
  
• Initiate the romance in your life; women are always waiting for their husbands to romance them, which becomes gradually less as the years go by.
  
  For example;
  1-Plan activities that make him feel special.
  2-Wear his favorite nightwear and surprise him with a candlelight dinner.
  3-Send him messages or e-mails telling him how much you love him.
  4-Occasionally be the initiator of the sexual area in your relationship.
  5-Make him feel admired and special.
  
• Do not expect him to offer praise right away, but eventually he will respond with praise and increased affection.
  
  Give him unselfish love :
  
  There are three types of love:
  
  1-Affection, based upon fulfilling your needs and being up to your expectations.
  2-Passion, which is sexual desire and fulfillment.
  3-Genuine love, which means giving and always being concerned about the welfare of your partner and not focused on your own needs.
  
  Discover the individuality of your mate :
  
  Try to find out who your husband really is and rediscover his inner qualities.
  Make a list of the things he is interested in and try to share his joys; also make a list of the things that hurt him and do your best to avoid them.
  
  Men need to be loved unconditionally, to be accepted as a person and to be constantly admired.
  
  Do your best my dear sister and do not forget to ask your Creator for His support along the way, and He will help you reach what is for your best interest.
  
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